Thoughts on Being 18

To: 18-year-old Da Ruey and all of you who are 18, going to turn 18 or was 18 years old at a point in time

Being 18 for the past 12 months has been great. Just as there is a time and season for everything in life, I had my time when I was 18 years old and it was the most amazing 12 months of my life thus far.

When I first turned 18 in March last year, it was at a turning point in my life, a pivot which would determine part of my future and who I will become one day and who I am currently. I had just got my

I had just got my SPM results and was still deciding where I would be headed to for my pre-university education. It was a time where applying for scholarships and attending interviews was all I had on my schedule it seemed.

I wasn’t sure where I would be headed to and what course I would be studying but I put my all into the interviews and applications and God opened a path for me to study the International Baccalaureate program and be a part of the founding seniors of St Joseph’s Institution International School in Petaling Jaya (more details here).

Being part of the founding cohort of students has been amazing and I’ve learned that you can always learn more from others. If you think you’re good and are too proud to learn from others, it basically leads to your own downfall. Always be humble and willing to improve and learn new things.

I also had just started this blog and I had a lot of fun and also learned a lot along the way as I regularly updated this site. What was most inspiring and interesting to me was the fact that through this site, I have been able to reach out, encourage and inspire people from different walks of life. Especially after I posted the article, The Secret Behind My SPM Success and How You Can Do It Too!, I got so many responses from readers saying that it helped them in one way or another,

I was truly humbled. It really helped and motivated me to keep writing despite what was sometimes a pretty tight and jam-packed schedule that I had. I also started an ongoing giving project

I also started my IB course as an 18-year-old and it truly has been a great journey thus far. It is mentally and physically challenging and at times can get just a tad bit too stressful but other than that, I’ve been loving what I’ve been studying and really take an interest in my subjects and the things I’ve been learning.

Sure, I’ve been having less time to blog, but I trust myself to always find time to post here at least once in a while. This is because the way we spend our time really reflects how we spend our lives. The things and people we prioritize and give our time to, those are the things and people who our lives will center about. If you want something to be a central part of your life, find time for it.

You’re never too busy. If you can’t find even a little time to do something for yourself, which you truly love and enjoy, you have no life. Seriously. Find out where else you’re spending your time unnecessarily and change that.

Living on my own has also placed a new set of responsibilities on me. I have to do my own laundry, arrange my own mode of transport, schedule my personal events and also take responsibility for the things I prioritize.

I’ve also had to learn how to live in and take care of a home with my two housemates, Shao Jun and Ying Xuan. Living with a bunch of scholars and great friends in the hostel has also been a wonderful time and there’s always a good time to be had when all of us are together.

There’s less of my parents checking on my grades and instead more of me doing that for myself and making sure I check up on myself. There’s less of people telling me what I should do at what time of the day and instead it’s now up to me to plan and use my time wisely.

Finding a church and attending it every weekend became my own responsibility. However, it has been an awesome time for me since I became part of Acts Chuch and its cell groups. The people in Acts have been very friendly, kind and warm and I’ve had a good time since day one. It’s just great that I get to spend at least another year there and especially with my cell group members.

My freestyle has also led to one of the most memorable days of my life thus far. Just being to be able to meet other freestylers, most of which live in Selangor or KL, and being able to take part and compete in a tournament in front of a public audience was just a dream come true for me.

(with Malaysia’s top freestyler, Ariff Karim and other freestylers)

In conclusion, being 18 has not been easy. There were new challenges and obstacles that I had to face as well new experiences to gain and new people to meet. Being 18 years old taught me a lot of lessons about life, but the most important one that I’ve learned thus far is this:

Be grateful for all things, the good and the bad. You either enjoyed it or it taught you something—Da Ruey

I hope to bring all of you more great content as a wiser and more grateful 19-year old now. Have a great 2k17 🙂

Thank you for reading.


IB: The Next Dot

2016, The Best Year of My Life

The Secret Behind My SPM Success and How You Can Do It Too!

An open letter to 19 year-old Da Ruey

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